About Me
Lesley Barber
What I want to say is that I have always been this amazing calm, responsive parent. Not that in my older daughter's toddlerhood I came to a point of such frustration and anger and mom-rage that I'm pretty sure my daughter lost the sense of security and trust in me that I wanted her to have. What I want to say is that my house is Pinterest worthy and that there aren't dirty dishes littering the counter, dog fur and dirt on the floor and laundry in baskets strewn around. What I want to say is that we have a beautiful, regimented schedule and everyone does their part and we work seamlessly as a family. But here's the truth. We have a loosey-goosey schedule. And my house is full of fur (which makes vacuuming VERY satisfying ;)) and though my fridge is full, so is my counter. And, here's the hardest and also best part. I pretty much ruined my relationship with my daughter when she was a toddler. But through that, I KNEW I needed to change, because I didn't feel good about the way my parenting was going. I wanted to enjoy it, not dread it. I read all the books. I did a ton of trainings, and classes and research. Eventually I found the Jai Institute for Parenting and went through their Parent Coach certification process, which requires you to go through the 12 week Transformational Parenting curriculum as a client. When I say it changed my life, I'm not exaggerating. It has helped me create and sustain the relationships I always wanted, and strived to have with my daughters. And with my partner. It bridges the knowledge I have from knowing to DOING. And I want to share that experience with all parents. Because we all deserve to enjoy parenthood. We all deserve to create a connection with our children and have a peaceful home. If that's something you desire to have as well, I'm here to help you.
How it all began...
I’ve always felt called to teach and I’ve always felt drawn to helping children feel seen and understood. I have been working with children since I was 8, volunteering to help in the toddler room at my school. I started nannying in the summers when I was 10. After moving to Alaska for college, I started teaching preschool and from my previous experience, I had developed a deep understanding of the unique needs and developmental stages of young children. Through my commitment to creating developmentally appropriate curriculum and fostering a nurturing environment, I was able to make a positive impact on young children and their families. I became known as the “last chance teacher” as I was often assigned children who had behavioral challenges. Using my curiosity and experience, I helped my students feel safe and cared for so they could thrive. This translated well to transforming existing after-school youth programs and the development of additional ones. By redesigning structure and developing curriculum specific to each developmental stage, while promoting understanding and skill progression, I helped to sky-rocket attendance and create a reputation for excellence in the programs I worked with. Through my own experiences as a parent, working through generational programming, trauma and PPD, I found that I was severely unequipped to handle my ever-growing frustration with my own children. I found the Jai Institute for Parenting Parent Coach Certification and as a coach in training, was required to go through the 12 week course as a client. I felt this process bridged the knowing into doing. It was transformative and allowed me to take the steps toward embodying the parent I wanted to be. Because of this experience, I have created Unpolished Parenting as a way to offer parents and caregivers the same experience. My hope is that with Unpolished Parenting, people will feel comfortable and confident showing up as who they are, and where they are in their parenting journey, without shame. And that I can guide them through their darker moments in parenting and help them enjoy the journey.
Education and Certification
Education
Alaska Pacific University
BA in Liberal Studies,
Theatre Education; using theatre in the classroom to engage students
Certifications
Jai Institute for Parenting
Parent Coach Certification
Alaska Institute of Oriental Medicine, Acupuncture & Massage
Massage Therapist
NADA
Acupuncture Detoxification Specialist
Lisa Powers Health and Wellness
Usui Reiki Master
Rapid Transformational HypnoTherapy
Foundation Certificate in Hypnotherapy
MindBody Online
Certified Software Consultant
Institute of Child Psychology
Compassionate Discipline, Understanding Sensitive Children
Mastering the Art of Attachment
Somastery
The Fundamentals of Somatic Therapy
The Zen Femme
Level 1 & 2 Human Design chart reading
Caylin Brie, Breathe with me
Human Design